In this series of posts, I am working through 12 steps I created to help refresh my wardrobe for fall. If you would like to follow join me in the challenge, you can find all the steps here.
You bought it but you’ve never worn it? We all have these things in our closet. Things we bought but never wear. Find one of these items that fits you well, but you don’t wear. Take a picture of a neglected item and describe why you have never worn it.
Last week, I shared images of all the wardrobe items I’m keeping for the coming fall season. You can check that out here. The things I decided to keep are all items that make me feel good when I wear them. They fit comfortably, fit my current lifestyle demands and look good. It’s a lot easier to get dressed in the morning, now. I don’t have to waste time weeding through a sea of un-wearable garments. Un-wearable garments are rubbish. They should be donated to someone who can wear them. Sometimes we buy garments that are totally wearable, but for some reason they languish unworn in our closets. In this step, it’s time to examine why we do that.
My neglected item is this ASOS dress.
The road to this dress was paved with good intentions. I first saw a similar ASOS dress on Gabi of GabiFresh, she and I have a similar look (physically and sartorially). As you can see here, she looks fabulous in it…
I later saw the same (or similar) dresses popping up on curvy girls all over the tumblr. Succumbing to the power of suggestion and repetition, I decided to order it. When it arrived, I tried it on and found the fit to be decent, not perfect, but decent. Shopping online is a new thing for me, as I have little faith in garment sizing. There are a lot of things I like about this dress. I love the print, I have a vintage dress with a similar print in a very different cut. I love the length, it’s demure. I also like sleeves, because I’m always cold. So why haven’t I worn it? The truth is, I am self-conscious about wearing something so form-fitting. I have a taste for draped, amorphous shaped clothing. This is the opposite.
So why did I keep this dress for fall? I am keeping it because this fall, my aspiration is to stop being self-conscious in form-fitting clothing. I know that with the right styling,this dress will work for me. I will probably start within my comfort zone, layering it under a maxi-skirt or an oversized cardigan. That is okay, baby steps. When I do finally get the guts to wear it, I will make sure to post a picture.
Since some of you are following along and doing the wardrobe challenge, I thought I would help by listing a few of the main reasons wearable items go unworn.
- Self Consciousness: This is a big one for me. Negative self-image is not easy to overcome. It takes work and time. Be kind to yourself. It may take a few tries before you are comfortable. If you try a few times and you can’t get comfortable, there is no rule that says you have to wear that particular style. You dress your body the way you want.
- Too Fancy: I own a very pricey leather jacket. I purchased it with a gift card I won. In the 2+ years I’ve had it, I’ve only worn it 5 times. It’s just so nice, I’ve been scared to wear it. This is dumb. If you have something fancy in your closet you should wear it. Think about ways you can wear it so it doesn’t collect dust.
- Minor Flaws: Sometimes all you need is a tailor or dry cleaner to revitalize a garment. If it’s worth keeping, have a professional fix it.
- Lack of Context: Often, the reason something goes unworn is that you don’t have anything to wear it with. If this is the case, I suggest taking the garment with you when you go shopping and trying it on with complimentary items.
If you have other reasons, I’d like to hear them and add them to the list.